When you don’t give up Hope- True Recovery from Eating Disorder becomes an Imminent Reality.
“Why do you stay in prison
When the door is so wide open?” Rumi
Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder that makes people lose more weight than is considered healthy for their age and height. Persons with this disorder may have an intense fear of weight gain, even when they are underweight. They may diet or exercise too much or use other ways to lose weight. http://www.nlm.nih.gov/
One of our courageous readers and a recovered anorexic is getting married soon. We wish her a happy married life. Making a decision to tell someone about your Eating Disorder history can be difficult, but this brave person shared her struggles with me. She survived her anorexia long enough to get the help she needed and her journey back to health and happiness is amazing. I hope this will provide some inspiration and hope of recovery for those who are suffering from Eating Disorders.
Most people embrace the idea that Eating Disorder is a phase, a diet gone too far. If so, families wonder: “How long till he/she pulls out of this phase”? Eating Disorders are a real illness with real symptoms. Eating Disorder is not a diet gone too far or a phase. If left untreated, it will get worst. The signs of disordered eating and disordered behaviors should not be ignored.
According to Ira M. Sacker, MD “One of the most distressing things about an eating disorder is the way it cuts the person off from family, friends, and enjoyable activities. The person tends to isolate and hibernate, focusing only on their eating behavior to the exclusion of almost everything else. Their true identity and any other interests have all been merged into the eating disorder.”The most important thing is that eating disorder needs to be treated no matter what stage it is at, no matter how early, those thoughts and behaviors have to be tackled.
Our soon to be bride spent her former years battling anorexia . Her illness took over her whole life to the point where she no longer knew who she was and what she had become. It took years of therapy and out-patient treatments and one real life changing moment for her to pull out from the throes of her Eating Disorder.
At one point she did lose all hope of recovery, but indeed God is all merciful and Raheem and had other plans for her. She defeated the odds to beat this illness. She had a vision and always knew there was more to life then being stuck in the vicious cycle of Eating Disorder. Spending nights and days with this illness and the behaviors only reinforces the eating disorder identity. Instead, she took a path to discover what interest her and found a way to get back in touch with her passions and develop new interests. By rediscovering her passion for traveling, for learning, reciting poetry of Rumi and seeking the knowledge of Islam, she rediscover and regain her true self. Today she is a successful personality and through her work and manners she has touched so many lives. She is now ready to embark on a journey of love, trust and companionship.
Marriage is a vital part of a Muslim’s life and it is declared to be one half of one’s faith.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said,
‘Do not delay in three things; 1) The offering of the obligatory prayer. 2) The offering of the funeral prayer when the deceased’s body is present . 3) The marriage of a woman when her couple is found’
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said: “men and women are twin halves of each other” (Bukhari). By using the analogy of twin half the Prophet has underlined the reciprocal nature and the interdependent nature of men and women’s relationship.
Before Accepting a Wedding Proposal She Disclosed to Her Future Spouse About Her Eating Disorder Past- Why?
She told him that relapse is part recovery and God forbids if she relapses in future, then He will have to work with her to beat this illness. If the warning signs arise, he will be aware and together they can work towards taking preventive measures. She knows that it can take a life time of practice before one is able to live a healthy life without slipping into old ways of behaviors and thinking. These moments of ED thoughts are inevitable.
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” Rumi
Love and Support is essential to recovery from Eating Disorder. I hope that you will find her journey as inspiring as I have. Eating Disorders can be beaten.
“When you go through a hard period,
When everything seems to oppose you,
… When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute,
NEVER GIVE UP!
Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!” Rumi
Read Yourself and Know Yourself; you will then know your mission in life.
East, West, South or North makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey, a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond. Elif Shafak- Forty Rules of Love
Celebrate Every Accomplishment You Have Along Your Road to Recovery.