A Mother’s Secret for Treating Anorexia.

A Mother’s Secret for Treating Anorexia.


Dear Readers,


A wonderful and very insightful article by Dr Irina Webster. All those mothers whose daughters suffer from ED, I hope you’ll find this helpful and useful as my mother did.

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BY: Dr Irina Webster

Genuine Help for Eating Disorder Sufferers and Caregivers

A sufferer’s mother is the most important person in helping a daughter or son to beat anorexia. A Mothers connection to her child is a sacred connection.

Most mothers can not only see but they can feel what is happening to their child.

Nowadays we know that the anorexia lives in the subconscious level of the mind. The subconscious is a level where our feelings and emotions live. It is also a level where people keep their deepest beliefs about themselves and their world.

The content of our subconscious mind depends a lot on what our parents put in there. Parents are our first teachers and role models. Because of this our parents can do a lot to affect the subconscious mind of their child (especially mothers).

Anorexia takes a lot of space in your child’s mind and wrong beliefs can take over the big part of a sufferer’s subconscious mind.

So, what can a mother do to help?

1. Never give up on inspiring your child to learn new things. This will help take her/his attention away from the anorexics beliefs.  Remember: The less space you leave for the anorexia the better.

2. Show unconditional LOVE to the child.  Love appears to be the most powerful emotion that can stimulate and inspire people. Nothing heals better emotionally, biochemically, physically and mentally than love.

Love is a positive high frequency emotion which can heal and help us overcome many obstacles in our life.

3. Maintain close intimate connections “mother-daughter/ son”.  Often these intimate connections do overpower the disease.

4.Watch what kind of words you use when you talk to the sufferer.  One wrong word from someone, like “why can’t you just eat” can undo months of good work.

5. Constantly focus on increasing the sufferer’s self-esteem and enjoyment in life.

6. Understand that the first priority for underweight people is gaining weight.  A starving brain cannot process things logically, so do not think that just saying things will make changes.

Anorexics should be encouraged to achieve a certain weight appropriate for their height and age. This should be done in small steps, like getting her to aim for a pound (kilo) then another pound (kilos), if you tell a sufferer they have to put on 20 pounds (10kg) they will completely freak-out.

7.Sugar consumption is important for the brain because the brain works on glucose so try to get them to take sugary foods, even if you have to camouflage them.

A high consumption of proteins and calcium is also necessary for anorexics because of their bone density problems. We have had people use the high protein drinks weightlifters use with great results. But you can’t tell the sufferer what it is or they will not take it. We have had mothers substitute diet powders with protein powders so the sufferer will take it: because all anorexics read the labels on everything.

There is no substitute for mothers love and a mother’s involvement in treating anorexia. One mother who was very successful in helping her daughter to beat anorexia said that anorexia should be healed, not just treated.

Karen used a process of healing and took her daughter through it step by step using special methods she devised herself.  Healing was the process that saved her daughter from the grips of anorexia and brought her back from deaths door.

Read More About Karen mom please help go to http://www.mom-please-help.com Or Email me at waragainsteatingdisorder@gmail.com and I will send you a PDF.

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Body Scan Meditation for Eating Disorders.



Dear Readers,


Recovery is one long hard uncomfortable journey. You don’t know what triggers await you at every turn every corner. Maybe it’s that time of the afternoon when you have a strong urge to use one of many Eating Disorder behaviors and next thing you know the demon of Eating Disorder is back. It’s happened so often that your Eating Disorder behavior has become a habit. After all,  it makes you feel something and forget everything for a moment. It’s very difficult coping with the urge not to use Eating Disorder behavior, especially if you’re Eating Disorder has become an ingrained habit. Someone asked me how do you distract yourself? There are many ways to distract yourself. This disease is so deadly that I feel we need a manual of 101 distractions.

Get Creative- A reader from Mali has hidden Artistic talents and I would love to see her beautiful creative work one day. The act of creation engages the part of your brain involved in artistic design, preparation and execution. It takes mental effort, and the rewards are substantial. The pride you feel in your accomplishment is similar to the release of endorphins from physical exercise. A sense of pride is also good for your overall psyche.


Most importantly I found this body scan meditation by Dr Irina Webster very interesting. Meditation is a means of distracting your consciousness from the urge to give into your Eating Disorder and replacing it with a healthier alternative. Another benefit of meditation is that it releases something in your brain, relaxes you and help you feel good – without any real hardship! Calming your mind, silencing those little voices in your head that whisper you need to lose weight, to binge/purge, exercise. The more time you spend emptying your thoughts, just concentrating on your breathing in meditation or yoga, or appreciating the beauty of nature, is more time that you are free of the urge to use Eating Disorder behaviors. Don’t think of this as a chore. Just give yourself the opportunity to rest your mind. Start with 10 to 15 minutes. You may be amazed at how great you feel afterward. The urge to purge may completely disappear, at least for now. And that’s you’re one small step towards defeating the demon of Eating Disorder and then you build yourself from there. Remember, no one recovers overnight and no-one can go absolutely Cold-Turkey on their Eating Disorder. We have to work at it.  we’re after here, to unite and defeat the demon of Eating Disorder.


Genuine Help for Eating Disorder Sufferers and Caregivers

Body Scan Meditation By Dr Irina Webster

Body Scan Meditation includes going into a deep meditative state and scan your body while meditating. This kind of meditation not only slows down your brain waves, it also helps your brain to produce Oxytocin which is hormone of love and bonding .

Eating disorder sufferers don’t have enough of this hormone produced and that is why they have so much problems with love and bonding.

Now, how to do this meditation?

Make sure that you are not driving, not walking and not operate any machinery as we are going to go deep into a meditative state.

The purpose of this meditation is certainly not just to relax. The purpose is to know your body, to develop body awareness and awareness of your own thoughts and the mind. An equanimity, which is a term that means balance of the mind, composure, equilibrium. It means not reacting with either craving for what is pleasant ( food), or aversion for what is not pleasant. It means a form of acceptance, unconditional acceptance.

It is not a way of getting rid of unpleasant sensations. It is not a way of attracting pleasant sensations or pleasant experiences. It is a way of learning to accept whatever is there and get on with life. Relaxation becomes a byproduct of that, because when acceptance is increased, you relax.

Start by focusing all your attention to your nostrils, and look at the incoming and outgoing breath, as it comes in, as it goes out. Do not judge whether this moment is pleasant or unpleasant. Learn to be balanced, not reactive, neutral.

Move your attention to the top of your head and see whatever sensation you feel over there. You may not feel any sensation yet. Certainly you will not feel the subtle ones. There are millions of sensations on top of your head that your mind hasn’t been sharpened enough to feel. In time this will come if you persevere. For now, you may feel perhaps some gross sensations, itching, ants crawling, pressure, temperature of some type. Anything, or maybe you’ll feel nothing. It doesn’t matter. It is still an experience. Not feeling anything is still an experience, therefore you just observe, no reaction.

If any thought overpowers you, maybe a recurring thought, then go back to the awareness of breathing in and breathing out for a few seconds, even half a minute if you can. If it’s still overpowering, breathe slightly harder. Not too hard, slightly harder. We don’t want you to hyperventilate. And then as soon as you are aware of the breathing again, the thought is gone, then start slowing down the breathing. And again, when you can slow down the breathing and you feel relaxed again, go back to the sensation where you left and continue scanning the entire scalp area. And then move to the forehead and survey the entire forehead area.

Survey the eyebrows. Start with one, continue with the other. Move down to the nose. Look at any sensation on the nose. Move further down to the mouth. Survey the lips, any sensations in your lips. Look at the tongue, any sensation on the tongue. Of course your mouth is closed, or the lips gently parted, but you are breathing through the nose. Look at the chin, any sensation on your chin. Move up to the left cheek, and then move aside to the right cheek.

If you have any sensation, don’t get attached to it in any way, just move further. Move up to the left ear, and move aside to the right ear. Now survey the throat area, any sensation in the throat area. It can be anything, pain, strain, tingling sensation, itching sensation, pulling, throbbing, sweating. Any sensation is a sensation, it is an experience. Just observe.

Keep moving. When you finish surveying the throat area, survey the entire neck area and move to the left shoulder. In fact, you could start by any shoulder as long as you keep the same order all the time.

Survey the entire left arm and left elbow. Patiently and calmly survey the entire left wrist and left hand. Then go up to the right shoulder.

Move down to the right arm, and the right elbow. Move to the right forearm, and down to the right wrist and the right hand. Then move up to the upper chest area, the upper chest. Piece by piece. Then move down, piece by piece, survey the entire thorax and abdomen area.

If you feel your heartbeat and you interpret it such as that, then you are not looking simply at sensations. You are interpreting the sensations. Try to remain with the task of pure observation, no evaluation, no interpretation. Just observation.

Then move up to the upper back area and look at any sensation you may find in your upper back area. Very calmly, equanimously. And move down to the lower back area. Try not to get caught in your thoughts. As soon as you think something, quickly go back to the awareness of any sensation you were looking at, and move further. Maybe you haven’t felt a sensation for some time, so the mind is bored.

Now keep moving down to the buttocks and survey the entire buttocks area. Start with the left, and once this is surveyed, then move to the right buttock. Move down to the left thigh and survey the entire thigh down to the left knee. Then move down to the left leg.

Even though there may be gross sensations like pain perhaps, or pressure, tension, be very still accepting every experience. Within the worst and most painful sensation, if you come across any today or another day, you will find that if you are very very still, there is an underlying current inside that sensation. An underlying sensation, a flow of very tiny little sensations running through.

Go down now to the left ankle, until you survey the entire left foot. Now go up to the right thigh and survey the entire right thigh, part by part. Keep moving, down to the right knee. The right ankle and the right foot.

You have now surveyed the entire body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Now start from the tip of your toes and go up back to the top of your head. Start from the left foot and move up to the left thigh. And then the right foot, move up to the right thigh. Then survey the buttocks, and the lower back. The upper back, and then the lower abdomen. The entire abdomen and chest. From the upper chest go up to the throat. And from the left hand go up to the left shoulder. From the right hand then, go up to the right shoulder. Survey then the entire neck area, and then the face, part by part, and the entire scalp area.

Scan your body entirely, as long as you can give it time. As you will practice correctly, your mind will become increasingly detached at the deepest level, at the level of body sensations. Remember, the most important thing is that all sensations and all thoughts are temporaryby nature. The impression that they remain is because we react to them, we reinforce them. Reacting to it is only increasing reinforcement and conditioning in daily life.

What you do during this training will be reflected in your daily life. It is a very effective technique. Watch that as you practice, of course you will react, but watch that you react less and less, and the results are surprising.
For more information about meditation for eating disorders go to http://meditation-sensation.com/


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Uncovered: What’s The REAL Cost Of Bulimia?

Dear Readers,

I was speaking to a lady from UK who has suffered from Bulimia for over 17 years now. Bulimia has cost her health, her relationships and has taken a huge toll on her finances. “On average, I spend £40-£50 a day on Bulimia, and this is being very frugal. Back in my good days, I would spend anything from £90-£150 a day on Bulimia. (the cost of food, diet pills, emergency detox really does add up). I am lucky that I can do my work from home now.  All I care about is making enough money to cover the rent of my dingy flat and my binges.” 32 year old female UK. 

 Reported in Science of Eating Disorders: Point is: Bulimic symptoms, the urgency of the act, the impulsiveness, the almost addictive features of bingeing and purging… well, they shouldn’t be underestimated, even for normally rational and money-conscious individuals –

Bulimia is a slow death and  can have disastrous health, social and financial consequences. When the sufferer has a family, the cost of the bulimia can damage the home and have long-lasting effects on family members.  I encourage everyone to seek help for their Eating-Disorder. This mental illness lives beneath your brain in your emotional brain and can be cured with the right treatment. Don’t delay it, we all deserve to be happy and God did not create us to live under the slavery of Eating Disorder.

I found this blog-post by Julie Kerr very interesting. Please take out few minutes to read the info presented in this article. Knowledge is power, the more you educate yourself about your illness, the weaker the power of the demon of Eating Disorder becomes. Julie Kerr  is offering 30 minute free coaching session. Please read below for details.

Uncovered: What’s The REAL Cost Of Bulimia?


The trouble with bulimia is it’s a slippery slope.

It starts out so innocently. You feel particularly disgusted with yourself after a binge and in an attempt to repair the damage you make yourself sick.

The first time is pretty nasty. After all it’s not easy forcing your fingers down your throat. And then there’s the horrible acidic taste of regurgitated food. But the payoff is it makes you feel better – you tell yourself you’ve stopped all that food leading to weight gain – and anyway, you’re not going to do it again…

But you do – and each time it becomes easier and more habitual until eventually it’s just something you do after eating. And then bulimia becomes a way to manage your weight and help you deal with the insecurities and difficulties life has thrown at you.

The trouble is, there’s a sinister side to bulimia.

And if you don’t proactively find a way to stop NOW – you will pay a considerable cost…

Bulimia could cost you your life

Perhaps you saw the interview in The Observer on Sunday with Amy Winehouse’s oldest brother Alex.

Amy Winehouse

Amy Winehouse performing in 2007, four years before her death. “What really killed her was the bulimia,” said Alex Winehouse. Photograph: James McCauley / Rex Features


You may remember that talented singer-songwriter Amy Winehouse died suddenly in July 2011. An inquest recorded a verdict of misadventure after finding her blood alcohol level was five times the legal drink-drive limit – enough to depress her respiratory system.

However, her brother has a slightly different opinion which he made public this week.

Alex revealed that Amy Winehouse had been suffering from bulimia since she was 17. He said:

“Had she not have had an eating disorder, she would have been physically stronger”.

And there’s a lot of truth to this – especially when you get crystal clear on the detrimental physical impact bulimia can have on the body.

Let me explain…

Bulimia puts the body under enormous physical stress

If you’re bulimic, you are in effect eating a restrictive diet. And because you’re denying your body essential nutrients, there’s a serious risk of becoming malnourished.

It’s a strange paradox that seems far removed from the fears associated with over-eating.

But let’s explore the facts.

People with bulimia do not eat a balanced diet. What’s more, binge foods are usually high calorie; high-fat, quick release carbohydrates that make you feel satiated but have little nutritional value. What’s more, the purging means the body never absorbs a proportion of the nutrients these binge foods contain.

As a result your body can experience wide-ranging physical side effects. I’ve described some of the most common below:


  • Vomiting, the overuse of laxatives and a restrictive diet can lead to dehydration. This can lead to dangerous electrolyte imbalances that can damage the heart, liver and kidneys.
  • Binge eating can cause digestive problems ranging from stomach swelling and pain to constipation, irregular bowel movements and IBS.
  • Vomiting brings strong hydrochloric acid created in the stomach into the unprotected oesophagus. In time this acid can damage and weaken the wall of the oesophagus leading to ruptures.
  • Muscle atrophy (muscle wasting) can occur where the body is denied essential proteins.
  • Stomach acid in the mouth can lead to teeth discolouration and decay
  • Fertility problems including difficulty conceiving or an increased risk of miscarriage.


Each of these can silently weaken the body. What’s more, because the effects are cumulative they often go undetected.  Which means in time, bulimia becomes more deadly.

And it’s why you need to find a way to stop…

It’s time to become bulimia free

Perhaps you’re unaware of these physical side effects. Or perhaps because you feel physically OK, you’ve lulled yourself into a false sense of security by kidding yourself that your bulimia “isn’t that bad” or “it’s under control”.

Unfortunately I know from experience that this is rarely true.

The truth is bulimia TAKES control.

And the scary thing is, if you’ve been bingeing and purging for any length of time there’s a real risk you may have developed an underlying weakness.

And if your body is weakened, you become far more susceptible to serious repercussions  – and even death just like we’ve seen with Amy Winehouse and other talented people such as medical student Sarah Houston.

So please, take notice.

I know what it’s like to be where you are. Bulimia cost me some of the best years of my life. And in addition to the invisible physical side effects, there were the emotional repercussions such as low confidence, self-hatred and all those lies.

BUT I found a way out.

I was able to stop and I haven’t binged or purged for over 20 years. Bulimia took me to the darkest and most dangerous places. I resorted to some scary drastic measures and so I promise you nothing you say will shock me.

So if you’re ready to take back control and free yourself from this dangerous obsession with food, let’s talk. You see with my coaching support, you could reclaim your life, rebuild your health and ensure you don’t lose another day to the destructive forces of bulimia.

Get help NOW

It can be difficult to stop – especially if you try to do it alone. And because bulimia is often a closely guarded secret, telling those you love can feel like a step too far.

So instead please talk to me.

I’ve made it really easy to do this by offering a free 30-minute coaching session.

Simply email Julie@bulimiafree.com and we’ll arrange a convenient time to Skype. I promise that in those 30 minutes you’ll discover at least one nugget that will make a significant difference to your life right now. You’ll also be able to find out a little more about my 121 coaching and get a feel if it’s right for you.

So act now.

You don’t need to lose a single day more to bulimia – instead you can take back control of your life and take the first steps to bulimia freedom. You can do it and you do deserve it…

With love,


 Source: http://www.bulimiafree.com

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Pregnant with Hyperemesis Gravidarum‏


Dear Readers,

I first came across Shaye Boddington several years ago. She was the first person I ever contacted for help and she was very sweet, very warm and very welcoming. Shaye struggled with bulimia for a long-period of her life. She’s now recovered and runs a successful on-line recovery program Bulimia Recovery for those who suffer from Eating Disorders. I received an E-mail from Shaye Yesterday about her pregnancy and I would like to share that with you.


First of All- Congratulations Shaye.



About Shaye



“I’m a 26 year old girl from Auckland, New Zealand and I consider myself one of the luckiest people on Earth. Nope, I didn’t win the lottery, my car isn’t flashy and I don’t have a career as a movie star…

But what I do have is a beautiful and simple life free from bulimia!

But it hasn’t always been this way…

Bulimia entered into my life when I was just a scrawny little kid. I was 8 years old and for some reason I decided that I needed to stay thin and that restricting my food – or throwing up – was one way I could achieve this.

As a child, bulimia stayed in the background of my life, only rearing it’s evil head from time to time. However, when I started getting a bum and boobs, my bulimia took off like a NASA spaceship on a mission!

Bulimia consumed many years of my life… It was my best friend, my worst enemy and my companion. I hated it but I didn’t know how to live without it.

In the 20th year of my life I had hit rock bottom…

I was binging and purging constantly and spending upwards of $15,000 a year on binge food (Good Lord – imagine all the holidays I could have gone on!) I was absolutely exhausted. I believed that if I didn’t do something about my bulimia soon, then it would be too late. My body was falling apart.

I had lived with bulimia for over 1/2 my life and I had no idea how to live without it… but I knew I had to…

I started by sharing my bulimia secret for the first time in my life with a counselor. It was a terrifying experience for me, but it was so important. The #1 thing I gained from talking to my counselor was that I felt like less of a freak. She didn’t judge me – so maybe I shouldn’t judge myself?

This revived confidence within myself and enabled me to start walking the rocky and uncertain road to recovery…

Along the way I discovered many strategies and tips which helped my recovery and many that didn’t. I abandoned those that didn’t help and walked forward with those that did.

At the age of 22 I graduated from university… but inside I was celebrating a far greater and more life-changing achievement…

I had beaten bulimia and I was never going back!”

It’s been over 6 years since I recovered from bulimia.


bulimia dangers
Me, Jan 2012 – Bulimia free
for over 6 years!

Bulimia is like a prison, it captures your soul and beats you down until you know nothing else besides the gray walls around you.

I’d be lying if I said that I never looked in the mirror and wished away little areas of fat… But those are passing thoughts now. They don’t rule my mind. They don’t drive me to the toilet (or to the shower, or to the back garden, or to the tupperware under my bed!) I accept them and release them. Then I remember how great life is because I am healthy and happy.

Life is wonderful because I am free from bulimia… :)

…and you can be free too! You can heal. You can recover from this eating disorder.

With the right support and advice, you can write your own future.

Bulimia Recovery is Real. You Have a Life Beyond This Prison.


Pregnant with Hyperemesis Gravidarum‏


Wow, it has been a long, long time since I wrote! This isn’t because I haven’t wanted to – it’s because I have been so sick for the past 8 months…


In January, my husband and I found out we were expecting our first little baby! I was nervous, excited and everything in-between :) I started getting suspicious that I was growing a little bubba because I wasn’t feeling too well. At this point, I would have been about 3 weeks pregnant…


By the time I was 6 weeks pregnant I was vomiting constantly and had severe nausea that would last all day and all night. For weeks, I just lay in bed 24/7 accepting the suffering and thinking it was ‘normal pregnancy sickness’ but by the time I was 10 weeks pregnant, I was scared to be left alone because I felt like I was dying. It was at this point that I went to my doctor and I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum. Hyperemesis Gravidarum is severe pregnancy induced sickness that requires the same drugs used by chemotherapy patients to control such severe vomiting. Hyperemesis is something that I had never heard of and something that I definitely didn’t think could happen to me!


I kept hoping that the nausea and vomiting would go away by week 12 (that’s when normal morning sickness usually eases up) – but it didn’t. Then I’d hope it would go away by week 16 – it didn’t. week 20, still there… and on and on it went.


There were a few days here and there where I did feel a bit better and so I would try go off my medication – but that always ended with a trip back to the doctor to get checked for dehydration from excessive vomiting.


Anyway, here I am at 35.5 weeks pregnant! Thankfully, the last 10 days have been the best of my pregnancy… Only mild nausea and only a few vomiting episodes. I am starting to feel little sparkles of my old self coming back and it’s such relief!


Over the last 8 months, I’ve wanted so badly to keep in touch and to help and support you – but my life has felt like pure survival. I’ve just been doing what I’ve had to do to get by. If anybody reading this has suffered from Hyperemesis Gravidarum, you will understand.


I am so grateful that all the members of The Bulimia Recovery Program have been patient and supportive of me. I’m sorry I’m not able to offer the support in the community as I normally do – but it’s wonderful to see you all supporting each other when I do log in… Thank you for being so amazing and helpful to one another! I have joined a site that has a support forum for women with hyperemesis and so I realise more than ever how valuable getting support from people who understand truly is!


I am looking forward to my little monkey arriving and getting back into a routine of supporting you all each day! Apparently Hyperemesis Gravidarum ends as soon as the placenta is delivered, so that should be about 5 weeks away (plus a week or two to adjust to having a newborn!).


Well, I just wanted to drop you a line and finally explain my disappearance!!!


I also wanted to share that this experience has taught me (or at least reminded me) the value of having a healthy body and mind. When we are sick, life is hard. When we are suffering, life lacks that sparkle. It’s the same with any illness, disorder, addiction… including bulimia. You deserve to have a life that sparkles and so I hope you continue to push forward with your recovery… Keep looking for your answers. Reach out for help. Know that you deserve to do whatever it takes to regain your health.


Life can be so beautiful, and we all deserve that.


SO much love,


 Source: http://www.overcoming-bulimia.com

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Step One of Eating Disorder Recovery -12 Islamic Steps





Dear Readers,

I was asked to post First Step of 12 Islamic Steps to Eating Disorder Recovery. I’ve adopted First Step from Militti Islamia (the Introduction) and the exercises and the rest from Eating Disorders Anonymous (EDA). Millitti Islamia focuses on Addiction Recovery from Substance Abuse but because of the many similarities between eating disorders and addictions, several of the 12-step principles are applicable to the individual recovering from an eating disorder.  I apologize for all the errors and please do feel free to correct me.

Please Click Here for The Twelve Islamic Steps of Eating Disorder Recovery:12 ISlamic Steps

Please download the Original Step One of EDA Here: Step One

Sufi Mystics say the secret of the Qur’an lies in the verse  Al-Fatiha,

And the secret of Al-Fatiha lies in Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

And the quintessence of Bismillah is the letter ba,

And there is a dot below that letter….

The underneath the B embodies the entire universe….

The Mathnawi starts with B,

Your recovery Starts with





We admitted that we were powerless over our Eating Disorder and our1ives had become unmanageable.

From an Islamic viewpoint, what does it mean to say that one is powerless?

It is to say that we, in and of ourselves, are totally dependent upon Allah for our total sustenance. We come into this world powerless. We bring nothing but total dependence with us when we are born. Yet, we are taught that this is when we are most Muslim. This totally dependent, powerless state is unconsciously Muslim.

As we grow we become conscious of our dependence on “a power greater-than ourselves”, which in most cases is our parents. This consciousness brings with it knowledge that even our parents are dependent on something greater even than themselves.

As we become more conscious of our dependencies, we come to realize that all our help, aid and provisions originate with Allah, and it is at this stage that we become believing Muslims, or “Mu’muneen”, or we become something other than “full” believers. In other words, we are still Muslims, but with room for other influences to enter that will lead us away from “sirat’ul mustequeem”, or the straight path.

We then find ourselves dependent upon various “powers” that are not necessarily wholesome for our well being. This is a fate worst than death for Muslims, and leads us down all the wrong paths, eventually destroying whatever potential peace and security that can be attained in conscious, total dependence upon Allah.

We are people awakening to our true dependence, which is not Eating Disorder, but dependence on Ahad (One) that can arrest this illness. Ahad (One) who can even cure us of our disordered thinking. That Ahad (One) is Allah. The solution to powerlessness is in Qur’an and the example of who Allah honored with delivering the Book to the people of the earth, Prophet Muhammad, may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.

The realization of this, we believe, is the first step in solving our Eating Disorder problems. This is the first step to the fulfillment of our Islamic destiny. This is the first step of Recovery.

For people with anorexia, eating compulsively can take many forms: food rules, calorie counting, rules around not eating, using diet pills or laxatives, and over exercising. For people with bulimia, compulsive eating includes binging and purging through vomiting, laxative/diet pill abuse, binging and over exercising, and periods of restricting food intake. The program of recovery outlined in the 12 steps empowers people to recover for the rest of their lives. In recovery, people gain freedom from the obsession with food, weight, and/or body concerns. In doing so, they come to live happy, joyous, and abundant lives on a daily basis. This is a solution that’s been proven effective in arresting the illness for hundreds and thousands of people. Many people in recovery become “Weller than the well.”

Let Your Illness become your source of Strength, defeat this demon of Eating Disorder and Take your First Step towards Recovery Now!

Step One Exercises

Step 1 and exercises that accompany it are more about admitting where we stand than about pushing forward. . What sacrifices in life (happiness, health, and relationships) have you made, in order to protect your eating disorder and carry out the behaviors? The following questions are meant to help you realize what the eating disorder has taken from you, and what has become of your life as a result.

Your answers will help you clarify those strange terms, “Powerlessness” and Unmanageability.”

Use your journal. Explore your feelings underneath the idea of being powerless. Write quickly and freely. Do not edit, censor or review your writing. Re-reading your writing after a few weeks or months is okay. Although you can do a good job with Step One in very little time, please do not spend more than a week on it even if you haven’t answered all the questions as completely as you might want. If you are like many of us, you are probably scared of taking this step.

Here is a strategy: Read through all the questions as quickly as you can. Commit to reading and thinking about one question a day. Write down what you can as fast as possible at the end of the day in ten minutes or less. Then let it go. Start with a new question the next day even if you aren’t satisfied with your answers.


Do NOT go back to previous questions. It is really, really okay to be imperfect!


  1. Make a list of food memories, from an early age until now. This can go in order, or just be random. It’s amazing how many memories you will find, once you write down the obvious ones. Do not spend more than an hour at this activity. So often we are tempted to overdo.

See how much you can write down in half an hour or even twenty minutes.


  1. How have you tried to control your eating in the past? List foods you have binged on in the past and foods you have restricted.

Again, don’t spend too much time at this. Twenty minutes to an hour is more than enough, less is better.


  1. Have you promised yourself or others in that past that you would stop using your eating disorder? Did you try to stop acting in eating disordered ways and fail? Have you tried to reduce your eating disordered behavior (i.e. I’ll only purge once today) and failed?


  1. Have you continued to use your eating disorder even though it produced negative consequences in your life? What negative consequences has it produced?


  1. Have you ever done anything you would have stopped yourself from doing if you could have? If so, what specifically did you do? Do you ever do any of this habitually, or in a pattern of any sort?


  1. Make a list of all the things you missed and are missing because of your eating disorder or all the things you lost out on in life because of your ED.


Did you answer all of the above questions honestly?


You have, in essence, just taken Step 1.


Please don’t delay: Move on to Step 2. Step 1 is not a particularly good place to stop.



Next Week I will be posting the Next Step. Step 2 holds the ticket to freedom and a new life. Even if you don’t think you can do step 2 yet, get started. Even if you are not entirely sure you have done a perfect job on this Step 1, you will be probably working these steps again: the steps are such a useful process for understanding and solving problems, they are likely to become part of your daily life skills tool kit. Put Step 1 down now, and go on to step 2.


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Eating Disorders Megavitamin Therapy

Healing Eating Disorders without Drugs and without Psychoanalysis



Dear Readers,

A reader from India suffers from anorexia nervosa. She said: “Dear Maha, I am 25 year old house-wife, I live between India and Saudi Arabia.  After watching celebrities like Kareena Kapoor become size zero, I also embarked on a diet to lose weight. From the age of 16-20, I maintained a low-weight for my age and height. Things changed when I turned 21. I just could not stay away from food and became bulimic. It doesn’t help that my family owns a restaurant, I started stealing/taking food from the restaurant to facilitate my binges. I got married when I was 23. I still remember the panic attacks I had on the day of my wedding. I purged that day and could not get enough of the food. The problem now is that my family knows.  It’s also very difficult to binge and purge now as I feel so many people are watching me.  I looked into natural healing but I am really stuck. I looked into Megavitamin Therapy B3 and thought maybe  I should try this at home, it may help me to recover from my mental anguish. Please advise”.

Dear Fatima, Eating Disorder treatments are very expensive. This is a sad reality. I feel so sad when girls ask me is there a natural way to recover from Eating Disorder? Is there a medicine that we can take to stop the purging? You are lucky that you live in India where they have Ayurveda, arguably one of the most ancient of all medical disciplines.

I will do a separate post on Ayurveda or this post will get very very long.

To me a mere thought that one can take a simple vitamin supplement to cure their Eating Disorder is very tempting indeed and I hope one day someone will come up with a magical cure for this disease, Inshallah.

Simple and Natural remedies are always appealing and Megavitamin therapy is one such remedy. To answer your question on Megaviatmin Therapy. Few years back I read  Alternative Medicine A Guide to Natural Therapies and I remember finding this section of the book ‘Megavitamin Therapy’ very fascinating. Eating Disorders are a mental illness and I thought if Schizophrenia, Bipolar and other associative mental illnesses can be treated by Megavitamin Therapy, then maybe Eating Disorders too can be cured by this therapy.

There’s need for research to prove whether it can be useful in treating Eating Disorders or not . Most treatments for anorexia and bulimia focus on the psychological aspects of the problem. Vitamin and mineral deficiencies have rarely been studied in Eating Disorder  patients, in spite of the severe health problems that is characteristic of Eating Disorders. And while patients with anorexia are profoundly malnourished, it is rare for them to receive nutrient recommendations beyond a multivitamin and calcium.

There is a strong argument from branch of medical and non-medical practice that we maybe deficient in certain vitamins- and by consuming and ingesting large dose of vitamins we can cure many diseases and  mental health problems.


What is a Megavitamin Therapy?

Dr.Linus Pauling, was one of the first people to take a serious interest in the effects of large (previously unthought of) doses of vitamins to prevent and cure disease. In 1968 he coined the term ‘orthomolecular’ medicine from ortho-optimum or best. His early work was surrounded around the use of Vitamin C to prevent and cure the common cold. Eating Disorders are a disorder of brain- according to orthomolecular psychiatry Brain and nerve cells need very much more Vitamin B and Vitamin C, for example, rather than other parts of the body.

With time, Megavitamin therapists expanded their net wide and used mega vitamin therapy to cure alcoholism, hyper active children, neuritis, schizophrenia, depression, bipolar disorder, ADHD and other psychiatric disorders.

Megavitamin therapy is very high in dosage. For example, Hoffer and Osmond, two pioneers in orthomolecular psychiatry field recommended a 3,000mg daily dose of vitamin B3 when the normal dose is 20mg. Megavitamin Therapy is not recommended except on the advice of qualified practitioners or doctor.

For the brain to function properly it needs the vitamins riboflavine, nicotinamide, pyridoxine, cyano-cobalamine, ascorbic acid and folic acid at least.

Eating Disorders and Megavitamin Therapy


Using Niacin (vitamin B3) to treat Depression and Anxiety

Niacin is vitamin B-3, one of the water soluble B-complex vitamins.This ‘mega-vitamin therapy’ eliminates the need for toxic anti-anxiety medications and helps you to relax naturally and get to sleep more rapidly at night

 In fact, along with antioxidants like, vitamin C, E beta-carotene and selenium, niacin provides the ultimate protection against disease-causing free radicals. According to Abram Hoffer, M.D., Ph.D, the combination of vitamin B-3 and the antioxidant nutrients is a great anti-stress program.

Caution: This is very high in dosage. If you want to try this therapy then you have to do this under a trained practitioner. Please don’t try this at home.


I was prescribed Thiamine (Vitamin B1) by a Dietitian few years back. After leaving the treatment center, I started working alongside my former boss to heal my Eating Disorder through natural healing and vitamin therapy. By vitamin therapy here, I do not mean Megavitamin Therapy, but just adding nutritional supplements to my diet to treat insomnia, depression and anxiety. Anger, depression, anxiety and insomnia are a serious problem and they further prolong the recovery process.The problem with anti-depressant medication is that after a while it stops working and has too many side-effects, that’s why I opted for natural therapy.


According to i Control My Health  Home Lack of proper nutrition can be responsible for causing emotional changes, including depression, irritability, and anxiety. This means nutritional supplements are necessary for those suffering from eating disorders.

Ask your doctor for a blood test to check your levels of vitamins for deficiency and then incorporate certain vitamins in your diet

In order to see difference it makes to your mental well-being these nutritional supplements should be taken regularly over long periods of time. Taking the recommended daily amount (RDA) of vitamins and mineral supplements is perfectly safe.

Vitamins in Recovery

We still have much to learn about the causes and treatment of Eating Disorders, but nutrition/vitamin therapy holds promise and should provide encouragement to those who suffer, or have loved ones who suffer, from this complex disorder.

Vitamin B Complex- essential for cell metabolism and central nervous system maintenance helps to stabilize nerve cell membranes. Vitamin B is very effective in treating anxiety.

According to Mayo Clinic: Vitamin B-12 and other B vitamins play a role in producing brain chemicals that affect mood and other brain functions. Low levels of B-12 and other B vitamins such as vitamin B-6 and folate may be linked to depression.

 Taking a daily supplement of Vitamin B Complex may help your body get the nutrients it needs and can prove a useful aid in your recovery from Eating Disorder. 


Folic Acid-

Folic acid is crucial for proper brain function and plays an important role in mental and emotional health. A new study reveals that, folic acid supplementation improves folate levels and mental health in people with eating disorders.

Scientists from Health Research Institute IdiPAZ, Spain randomly assigned 10 mg per day of folic acid or an identical placebo to 24 people with eating disorder. All the participants were advised to maintain their medical, dietary, and psychological treatment. The scientists obtained data for anthropometric parameters (height and weight), food consumption, blood parameters (serum and red blood cell folate, plasma homocysteine), and depressive and cognitive behavior.
The scientists observed that, six months of folic acid supplementation showed improvements in folate status and a significant reduction in homocysteine levels. The elevated homocysteine concentration is suspected to contribute to the cognitive impairment. The doses of folic acid (10mg per day) used in this study did not cause any reduction in vitamin B12 levels. Furthermore, the folic acid supplementation improved mental health corresponding to cognitive impairment and depression usually associated with eating disorders.
The authors commented that folic acid supplementation shows overall improvement in quality of life in people with eating disorders and thus represents a safe and effective therapeutic tool.

Omega-3 Fatty Acids


Found in cold-water fish and certain vegetable oils, and available as a supplement, omega-3 fatty acids are sometimes used to help depression and other psychological problems. People suffering from Eating Disorders often avoid fat intake for long periods, with significant consequences on brain function. Omega-3 fatty acids, which are found primarily in fish, cannot be manufactured by the body and must be acquired through diet. Omega-3 fatty acids play a central role in nerve cell membranes from early development through adulthood. Research supports a relationship between EFA deficiency, and many medical and psychiatric conditions. Depression, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and bipolar disorder are all thought to be related to deficiencies in EFAs. A recent study showed improvement in patients receiving one gram each of EFAs in addition to standard treatments.


Vitamin D3- this enhances mood- excellent in treating seasonal affective disorder.

Zinc- supplementation is amazing and it’s used in treating restrictive eating disorder, anorexia and bulimia. Back in the 80s other scientists had already determined that those with anorexia were prone to zinc deficiencies [S Safai-Kutti et al., 1986].

Dr. Soodabeh Safai-Kutti hypothesized that zinc deficiency might be a player in the pathogenesis (the origins of onset) of anorexia nervosa. In an open trial of 20 patients Safai-Kutti placed the subjects on 45-90 mg of zinc sulphate. An open trial means that these patients were not being compared to a placebo group or a control group.
During the follow-up period of 8 to 56 months, 17 of the patients had achieved a 15% (or more) increase in body weight [S Safai-Kutti, 1990]. Additionally, patients did not lose weight and none developed bulimic symptoms.

 A number of nutrients need to be taken with others to be effective. An example is that vitamin C needs zinc to be effective. The B vitamins should be taken as a complex as there are more than twelve of them and they work best by complementing each other.

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Guidelines for Taking Nutritional Supplements

  • Always follow the guidelines on the labels. And be aware that by taking one or more combination supplements with a daily multivitamin and mineral supplement may mean you are overdosing.
  • Stop taking the supplements immediately and consult with a therapist if you begin to feel unwell or have side-effects or unusual symptoms.
  • Always take supplements with or soon after a meal.
  • Don’t take all the vitamin C in the morning and all the B-complex in the evening as these cannot be stored by the body. Spread out the dose throughout the day. If the vitamins are surplus to requirements they are eliminated from the body.
  • Always get the advice of a trained nutritional therapist if you want to take large doses of any supplements. Overdosing with some nutritional supplements can be toxic.
  • Don’t expect to feel any significant benefits within the first three months. Consult your nutritional therapist if no benefits are experienced after this.
    Source: Complimentary Therapists


Please Consult A doctor before using any of these supplements. Eating Disorder treatment varies greatly from patient to patient, depending on the severity of the illness and the philosophy of the treatment team.



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Food Love and Gut Feelings

Food Love and Gut Feelings

Genuine Help for Eating Disorder Sufferers and Caregivers

By: DR Irina Webster


Dear Readers,


We are very lucky to have recovery coaches like Dr Irina Webster, Richard Kerr, Karen Phillips, Kate Walsh, and many others, who’ve dedicated their lives to helping people who suffer from Eating Disorders. I hold a great respect for Dr Irina Webster and her work. Dr Irina Webster suffered from anorexia bulimia for 15 years of her life. She recovered and has now worked with hundreds of people to help them defeat the demon of Eating Disorder.

I love this article by Dr Irina Webster. It’s simply amazing and teaches you that you are higher than food obsession. This is a great read for everyone. Don’t forget knowledge is power, the more knowledge you have on your illness, the weaker the demon of ED gets. With this information, your feeding your mind something positive and taking small steps towards recovery.

Happy Reading!


We live in a time when many people are obsessed with food, eating and body image. The other thing everyone wants is love: to have love in their life and to be loved.  And the third thing people talk about nowadays is about intuitive connections with yourself and the ability to listen to your gut feelings which will guide you to where you want to go.

How do you think food, love and gut feelings are connected?  Well, the reality is that how you eat is how you live your life. The way you eat affects everything in your life: relationships, love, self-talk, beliefs and your energy level.

For example, chaotic erratic eating, like in case of eating disorders always bring a chaotic and erratic life. Avoiding certain foods means avoiding something else in your life which is bigger than food: feelings, emotions, responsibilities, certain people or certain situations.

Let’s see how food and love are connected? Simply you can put it like this: abusing food is denying self-love and promoting self-hatred.  People with anorexia deny the self (their life and love); they have extreme fears and self -hatred.

People with bulimia and binge eating also hate themselves. They have too much pain and feelings of guilt and shame (which is all opposite to love).

People who are on constant diets also deny some or many aspects of their love which make them feel very sensitive, unstable, moody and unsafe.

People who constantly overeat (binge eaters and compulsive overeaters) – associate their love with food and eating. For most of them love is food and other forms of love for them become non-existent.

Unless people become aware of what and how they eat, they will remain victims of their obsessions and will never know what love is.

Now let’s look at the relationship between eating and gut feelings.  The gut has its own mind with up to 500 million nerve cells and 100 million neurons in the gut. The gut remembers everything, what you ate, when you ate and in connection to what feelings and emotions you ate and how.

An eating disorder can start from you being upset once and wanting to calm yourself down so you ate. The eating gave a temporary emotional relieve. Your gut remembers this episode and since that time you continued to use food to “make yourself feel good”.  Every time you binge, you lose control and just let go.  These feelings are addictive and very soon you find yourself consumed by a food addiction.

Your gut feelings are supposed to protect you by sending you messages (intuitive voices) but your body stop listening or maybe your gut just shut itself down when you started abusing food. Intuitive feelings stop working also.  That’s why people with eating disorders often find themselves in situations which are uncomfortable and chaotic.

Obsessive eaters, anorexics and bulimics stop hearing the voice of their own selves and stop being connected with there own selves. The only voice they can hear is the voice of their food obsession which tells them only about bad things.

To start hearing their own voice again (the voice of their gut and intuition) people should become aware of how they eat and realize that the way they eat affects their intuition. Then they should try to discern the voices: their own intuitive voice from the rotten voice of their eating disorder. In order to return your intuitive voice you should listen and follow just your own intuitive voice and ignore the ED voice.

Here are the steps:

  1. Accept that the way you eat affects your whole life.
  2. Find out what it is that you are trying to avoid by abusing food (are these emotions, feelings, people or situations)?
  3. Ask yourself: what is my true love? What do I really want in life?
  4. Meditate and during meditation ask “Who am I? What do I want?”
  5. Identify your own intuitive voice: it is a soft, kind, gentle and positive voice.  Listen to it.


Freedom from food obsession comes when you realize who you are. When you realize that you are higher than food and that food is only the sustenance to support your body and your body is the temple for your beautiful soul – then you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Loving your soul, listening to your intuitive voice and connecting to your higher self, is the way to recovery and the way to live life.


Source: http://www.eatingdisorder-institute.com

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